Those who highlight your best ablilities and traits are the one who you need to be around. Also choose to give this back to them. Challenge them and have them challenge you naturally. The kind of people you hang around with will have a major influence. Listen closely in what they are saying, since it is the values being held in them. I choose to listen to those who challenge me even though they may not be in my immediate circle since they are in a higher level of success and contribution. I see myself being in their place.