In starting in being honest with ourselves, it is not going to pretty however it is what we need to hear. Learning to take better care of each one of us from all aspects is going to evolve in being mentally transparent with personal intimacy with our own self. We do have pain, it is pointless to waste time being surrounded by it. The process of healing is a hear to aide all aspects in being ready and willing.
We all have triggers unknowingly connected to certain times in our life even in the slightest in the realm of what our mind understand can bring back flashbacks. It is essential to dig deep within ourselves in answering the questions we have. The environment we are in is a large influence since the subconscious mind is always open. It is our choice in holding what is dear within us. In all honesty, what is held in each one of us disperses all around by what is accepted. We must be honest with ourselves in order to have the life we seek for the now and the future.